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The adorable swimsuit I got for my son
and his best girlfriend. 

I am apart of a platform that helps connect influencers with businesses. The point of this is to promote their products by creating high-quality content in exchange for money or free products. If you are on Instagram you may have noticed the high number of “influencers” promoting different brands. So although I found Pat Pat Global through a platform I truly LOVE their items. Blogging is something I like to do for fun, and I vowed to only work with brands that I truly love and use. 

I have ordered from them 3x now. The order process is simple, you go to their website, add the items, check out. You will receive a few emails to give with an updated status on your order. The shipping took about 2 weeks in full.

 Here are just a FEW of the items I ADORE from PatPat Global!










Go to PatPat Website to find something adorable for you and your entire family!




Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Tab, Left Out, and Lonely

If you will only read one book on emotional, & mental health, let it be this one. Now not….. educational information, but spiritual. Although there is some talk about brain chemistry, the author is more focused on faith and personal experience. If you have been following my journey than you know that my life moto is Living Loved and it came from this book. The author, Lysa TerKuerst, has a very special place in my heart. Recommending this book brings me joy.

About Lysa TerKuerst:

Lysa TerKuerst is the president of Proverbs 31 Ministry. Lysa and her team have are helping thousands of people in their faith journey with online devotionals and more. Some background information about where some of her pain extends from you’ll find out that Lysa’s Father walked out on their family at a very young age, year later her sisters liver started to fail which eventually took her life. Although bitterness arose, Jesus did not give up on her. She continued on and got married, and raised 5 kids. Now she is a grand mom. Her story has so much encouragement and its incredibly inspiring.

Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Than, Left Out, and Lonely. Everything you need to know is in that sentence. Rejection can be catastrophic and  gut wrenching.

 

What to Expect:

Lysa is open and raw. You may find yourself feeling like your reading her personal journal. But her inspiration throughout breaths life into the broken places of our hearts. Its very clear she is  passionate about helping others walk through and over come the pain of past, or present rejections. She talks about living in a place of knowing how loved you are. If you don’t believe in a higher powerful, then this concept may be difficult for you because it is a Christian book. You’ll find yourself being reassured that the kind of acceptance and love that a rejected person needs, can only be found in Jesus. Lysa’s writing style feels like a conversation. It was a story that I wanted to hear, and wisdom I long desired for. When you put this book down, you will walk away differently from it. It’s powerful, its emotional, and its truth giving.

To purchase the book: Uninvited: Living Loved When You Feel Less Tab, Left Out, and Lonely

Pinterest Strategies: How I got to 1 Million Monthly Pintertests Viewers.

 

Lets talk Pinterest

A dear friend of mine has taught me so much about Pinterest. You may be surprised to hear this but Pinterest is a SEARCH ENGINE, not a form of social media. Connection can happen on this amazing platform, but its not what it was made for.

5 practical Things you can do today to help grow your monthly Pinterest viewers.

1. Use the App.

Pinterest rewards the users who utilize their app. So if you want your pins to be seen on Pinterest, you need to be actively using Pinterest.

Not a business account.
 Not a pretty Pinterest profile.
October of 2019

2. Set up your account as a business account.

If you are reading this it’s because you are wanting to track your progress and excel on this platform. You honestly cannot do that without having a business account.

A business profile.
A almost pretty Pinterest Profile.
Missing some keywords.

3. Create Brilliant Boards

Have at least 7 beautiful boards. Not beauty boards, but attractive and well established boards. 2 f these boards should be all about you!! Your blog, and your social media content. The others will depend on your interest and niches. Use key words in your titles, and don’t forget add a description. Make sure each of your boards have at least 10-15 pins.

4. Get Your Pinterest Profile Pretty Status

This is so critical. You want your profile to be organized and attractive. Update your cover banner with your most recent pins or a set of pins you want to feature. . Choose a profile photo that is appealing for your brand.

 

Pinterest Pretty Profile
My Pinterest Page

 

5. Spice up you Display Name

This was KEY for me. Not only should you have your brand name, but also a few key words with it.

The Queen of Pretty Pinterest Profiles

Hey Sunny Jess

These are limited and practical ways to boost your pinterest. If you are looking for more on pinterest I highly recommend the Queen of pinning. I met Jess on the beginning of my social media journey. She has been such an amazing friend to me. When I started out on Pinterest I had very limited viewers. She helped me get to 1 million in a few months.

With her in depth course I grew 500k in 2 weeks. Hey Sunny Jess | Body Positivity, Confidence, & Lifestyle Blogger has 10m+ monthly viewers. GOALS!! Her teachings are impactful and beneficial to anyone looking to use Pinterest as a marketing platform.

Check Out Her E-course Today

Mom Guilt

Mom Guilt

If you’re reading this it’s probably because you either are currently dealing with mom guilt, you have dealt with mom guilt, or you are about to deal with mom guilt. Whatever the case may be if your a Mom keep on reading.

Mom Guilt Is Real. Learn how to overcome it.

Mom Guilt Is Real

It doesn’t matter what season of life your in as a mom. The age of your kid doesn’t determine the amount of guilt your allowed to experience. If you are doing something for yourself, and suddenly you feel guilty about doing that thing, you have experienced mom guilt. WELCOME TO THE CLUB!

If you didn’t know, I love to workout. There was a time in my life I would feel so guilty spending an hour at the gym. It was especially hard when my son would start whaling and flying around limbs because he didn’t want to be in the kid zone. I would leave him there anyway, proceed to get on that elliptical and tell myself all the reason I am a selfish mom because I am putting my workout above my sons happiness. Have you been here before? Any situation where you felt less than as a Mom because you decided to do something for yourself, that is Mom guilt.

Another time Mom guilt might occur is when you forgot to do what you said you would do. Your child may have asked particular snack to put in their lunch for school, and when you get home from the grocery story you realize you didn’t get that snack. You then either have to go all the way back out to the store to spend more money, time & energy that you don’t have. Or you accept that your human and you forgot, but you’ll add it to the list for next week. Mom guilt is real people.



Behind every great kid is a Mom who’s pretty sure she’s screwing it all up.

How to overcome Mom Guilt?

Ask yourself “Have I committed a sin?”

For my example with the Gym, the answer would be NO. If anything I am teaching my child self discipline and the importance of health and wellness.

Stop Comparing

If your Mom guilt is stemming from the way you compare yourself to other Moms you follow on social Media then get off of social media. You have to be able to look at those Moms and know that you are seeing only the things that they want you to see. Lets stop comparing each other and start celebrating each other.

Reach out for help

Seeking wisdom is wise. If you are feeling like your doing something wrong, or your having troubles trying to manage motherhood go talk to someone. Sometimes a fresh perspective can do glorious things for Mom guilt.

There’s a lesson to be learned

I believe that we teach our kids how to be human. Let’s own our mistakes. If your a perfectionist this may be extremely difficult because if were being honest the amount of times you’ll mess up is fewer than most. Regardless it’s HUGE for a child to see their Mom make a mistake, own it, and move forward.

Know that tomorrow is a new day

You are going to mess up. A perfect Mom doesn’t exists. So when you do mess up, shake it off and know that everyone makes mistakes.

 Birds On A Wire Moms Podcast

Join this community of Moms. Yes this is a bold request, but I promise it’s how you start to overcome Mom guilt. This ministry is built to equip and encourage Moms all over the world. Karen Stubbs southern twang is full of wisdom and grace. Birds On A Wire Moms was made so Moms didn’t feel alone.

 

You are God’s masterpiece. Ephesians 2:10

Know Your Truth

If you have ever felt like you made a mistake in becoming a Mom. You aren’t the first and you wont be the last Mom to ever feel that way. The truth however is God choose you. When God formed the little people in our lives He choose the one who He wanted to raise them. The one He trusted. That is true for even Moms who never experienced birth. Our kids are a gift from God. We are our own worst critic. Finding your truth in Gods word is the best comfort you will ever find in Motherhood.

Resources:
BOAW: WT 127: How Do I Overcome Mommy Guilt?

Imprisonment Due To Defense

I am on week 4 of the 4 week series Pastor Chris Lockemy is preaching on forgiveness. If you’d like to watch the message it’s been loaded on their YouTube channel.

Before you keep reading check out
Week 1 Blog Imprisonment Due To Hurt
Week 2 Blog Imprisonment Due To Judgement
Week 3 Blog Imprisonment Due To Revenge
Then come back and continue!

The scripture PC (Pastor Chris) keep referring back to is Matthew 18:21-35

So this is the last week on the series Amnesty: The Anatomy of Forgiveness lead by lead Pastor Chris Lockemy at Epic Church of Baltimore. I want to give a brief summary of what I have learned in the series so far. Unforgiveness is a prison, not for the person we aren’t forgiven but for ourselves. The prison of unforgiveness has 4 doors that we can either open and forgive, or hold them shut and live in unforgiveness. Week one was the door of hurt; the pain that comes because of the gap between or unmet expectation and reality. Week two was the door of judgement; when we start to judge the motives and condition of someone else’s heart. You may sometimes find yourself dismissing that person as a human. Week  3 was the door of revenge; which is the practice of taking unauthorized justice into our own hands. We rehearse these past experiences of hurt, judgement, revenge, and the next door defense. We hold those doors shut which prevent us for forgiving and be set free to do what God is calling us to do.

Door #4 was revealed as the door of Defense

The door of defense is described as when you defending yourself. When you’re constantly defending your actions. It may have come across and hurt another person, but your intentions don’t align with the pain that was caused. You have to be whiling to admit and confess. I like to call this “owning it”. Forgiveness is possible when you can own the part you played and truly acknowledge with acceptance that we are in desperate need of Gods forgiveness.

Minimizing Ourselves

We often try to minimizing ourselves and what Pastor Chris meant by that is were not going to get the level of forgiveness we need if we keep trying to defend ourselves. He said it’s when you judge other people by their motives, but you want to be judge only by your intentions. How can you expect people to judge your intentions when most of the time your unwilling to consider the other persons intentions.

1 John 1:5

This is the message we have heard frin gun and declare to you: God is light, in him there is no darkness at all. If we claim to have fellowship with him and yet walk in the darkness, we lie and do not live out the truth. But if we walk in the light as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess out sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.

God is light, and apart from him we have darkness. In him we have fellowship, apart from him we have disconnection. In him we have forgiveness, outside of him we have unforgiveness. In him we are purified, outside of him we are unpurified.

 

The effects of having a defensive heart.

#1 Disconnection from God – If you are unable to own your part in situations, you are disconnecting from God. If your not able to admit that you are wrong, or recognize where you wen wrong, you are disconnecting from God. You don’t need to defend your actions.

#2 Disconnection of others – If your in the light you will find yourself having fellowship with others. When you aren’t in the light you may find yourself in isolation. You may find that you have separated from others. Defensiveness kills vulnerability. When theirs no vulnerability their is no life in relationships.

#3 Leaves us unforgiven & impure -In God your forgiven, without him your without forgiveness. You need to be able to own it. You have to be able to admit, & confess, your own part. You have to be open and allow God to do what only God can do, heal your heart.

 

Good defense is often bad offense.

You may give it your very best. You may have very pure intentions. You may think you have a very good way of defending your heart, but this message challenges you to evaluate yourself  and consider that it may be that you have a poor offense strategy. When you have an offended heart you will find yourself visiting these 4 doors. You can rehearse the judgement. You can rehearse the revenge. Even when you defend yourself.

Jesus tells us it is impossible to not be offended in our lifetime. Again, YOU WILL BE OFFENDED. You will be baited to be imprisoned by your unforgiveness. You wont be able to miss this bait. You cannot prevent the enemy from presenting the bait. We will look up and find ourselves trapped in unforgiveness. The enemy will tell us to defend ourselves. But the good news is we don’t have to stay there. The doors to forgiveness don’t lock. The enemy wants you to believe you’ll be there forever, but the truth is YOU can get out. You just have to choose not to take the bait anymore, and allow your faith to be bigger than your fears.

Why Should We Forgive?

Galatians 6:1-5

Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. If anyone thinks they are something when they are not, they deceive themselves. Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else. For each one should carry their own load.

From those verse here are 3 reasons why Pastor Chris says we should forgive. Keep in mind he is coming from the place of day to day hurts. The deep wounds people face need to be addressed more carefully.

#1 Forgive because you are guilty of something too– We have all fallen short of the glory of God. It may not be the exact same. But we too are guilty of something.

#2 Forgive because you might be next– You may have kept your nose clean now, but you may be needing forgiveness before the day is out.

#3 Forgive for Freedom– You should live in forgiveness for our own freedom. Don’t enslave yourself in unforgiveness. There’s more to be done. God’s not done with you yet.

If we were to put these 4 doors together it is actually a picture of what an unforgiving person looks like. When you stay in our prisoned because of unforgiveness you’re a wounded, judgmental, vengeful, victim. Those are not words I want to be used when describing me, and I am sure you don’t either. When you live in forgiveness, when own it, allow your faith to be bigger than your fears, it will begin to heal you. Words used to describe you would be gracious, healed, & completed. A son or daughter to the great I AM. Share in others sufferings. Have compassion on them. Those who’ve been forgiven for much, should forgive others much.

“You can only forgive others to the degree you have received Gods forgiveness for yourself.”

Imprisonment Due To Revenge

I am on week 3 of the 4 week series Pastor Chris Lockemy is preaching on forgiveness. If you’d like to watch the message it’s been loaded on their YouTube channel.

Before you keep reading check out
Week 1 Blog Imprisonment Due To Hurt
Week 2 Blog Imprisonment Due To Judgement
Then come back and continue!

The scripture PC (Pastor Chris) keep referring back to is Matthew 18:21-35

Door #3 was revealed as the door of Revenge

The idea that when someone hurts us, we hold the right to “pay them back” at some point. If your friend wasn’t there for your tough break up you may find yourself saying, “well just wait until you are going through a tough break up”, or “I can’t wait until the tables are turned” etc. You’ll hold onto that hurt until the perfect time comes when you can finally hurt them as much as they have hurt you.

Revenge is the practice of taking unauthorized justice into your own hands.

The Old Way

In the old testament they talk about and eye for an eye and tooth for a tooth. It’s human nature to escalate hurt and betrayal, to want to cause them even more harm than you were caused. But scripture tells us no, don’t do that. The punishment must match the crime. If someone steels your shirt, it doesn’t give you the right to steal their car. It should be an equal trade. There has to be equity in the was justice is enacted.

The New Way

Jesus’ way is better. Love them anyways.

Matthew 5:38-48
“You have hear that it was said, ‘eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ But I tell you do not resist and evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also. And is anyone wants to sue you and take your shirt, hand over your coat as well. If Anyone forces you to go one mile, go with them two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you. “You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and send rain on the righteous and unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do no even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.

 

How Do We Get Revenge?

This is not a how to. Pastor Chris was chowing us how we are already doing it. So that we can be more mindful of our intentions and actions.

We do to them what they did to us.

The most common for of revenge. It’s very simple. We do to them, what the did to us. An eye for an eye. When they don’t invite us over for a party, we wont invite them over the next time we have a party.

Keeping the person indebted to us.

We don’t take revenge out on them. But we will remind them of what they did to us, when it seems like we have forgot. When you bring up things from , days, week, months, or even years ago. You decide to hang it over their head that they are indebted to you.

Keep them defined as the person who did that thing.

Keep them in a box. We want to be able to define or label someone so that we know who they are, what we can expect, & what we can’t expect. The example Pastor Chris gave was the late friend. The person who always shows up late to a party, so you have to always tell them the event starts earlier than it really does because you want them to get there on time. But when they show up on time, people love to remind them that they are always late. We like to remind that friend that their out of their box. Revenge can be when you try to get people back into their boxes.

Why Should We Let Go Of Revenge?

A settle form of revenge is not letting people grow from their past. Why can’t we just be obedient and allow God to do God’s job. We need to trust that Jesus is going to take care of the things were not involved in. Let go of the hurt, & the revenge, and let God do what God does. He will do exactly what is meant to happen. There is peace in that level obedience.

 

Make room for God

Letting go of revenge allows us to make room for God. Instead of focusing our thoughts on how we can seek revenge, or the pain that was caused by someone else actions, we can focus on our prayer time. We can spend more time worshiping God. We can dive into a devotion and just accept that the situation is Gods.

Perfects Us

When you let go, it perfects us. It completes us that God is complete. It finishes our heart like God is finished. Instead of incomplete and waiting for revenge to happen, instead you are focused on your relationship with God.

“Forgiving someone by letting go of revenge is the process by which God matures you.” – Pastor Chris

Makes you look more like Jesus

You start to realize that the person who hurt you is broken. Your forgiveness will confuse other, they will get a complete and bigger picture of Gods goodness. He forgiveness, & his great love. Jesus took the penalty of our sins, and gave us mercy, and blessings in return.

Choose to let go & let God.  Pray for those who are broken so they don’t hurt anyone else, and so that them themselves don’t have to hurt any longer.

Imprisonment Due To Judgement

I am on week 2 of the 4 week series Pastor Chris Lockemy is preaching on forgiveness. If you’d like to watch the message it’s been loaded on their YouTube channel.

If you have not already read my blog – Imprisonment Due To Hurt, I recommend you start there and then come back and read this one.

The scripture PC (Pastor Chris) keep referring back to is Matthew 18:21-35

Door #2 was revealed as the door of Judgement

Breaking Down The Text  

Matthew 7:1-6 says “do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. why do you look at the speck of sawdust in you brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plan in your own eye? How can you say to you brother, ‘let me take the speck out of your eye’. when all the time there is a plan in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces.”

When I read the bible I like to break the text down. I go line by line and interpret what I think the text is saying. The thing that has been the most difficult for me while reading the bible is that everyone seems to have a different perception on what the text says. For YEARS I struggled because of this. It’s best to pray and ask God for clarity before you dive into any portion of the bible, so that you may interpret the words exactly how he intends you to.

Jesus is talking to his disciples.
1.  Don’t judge others, it will cause judgment upon you.
2. The extent of judgement you allow to happen in your own life will be placed upon you.
3. You cannot judge someone else when you too fall short in this life.
4. It is not our place to judge others, we need to focus on ourselves.
5. We are all human and we all fall short because of sin and temptation.
6. Jesus uses the dog and pig as a representation of those who ridicule, and reject the gospel. We are responsible to share the good news of Jesus, but we are not responsible for that person to accept the news. Just as pigs don’t appreciate pearls, some people don’t appreciate the message we have given about Jesus.

Verse 6 is a tough one to interpret. Jesus goes from judgment, to specks of saw dust, planks, dogs, pigs, and pearls. But what I take out of these 6 verses is that its not my place to judge the condition of someone’s heart. Although I should never live in shame and silence about the gospel, I don’t need to force it into the hearts of people who don’t want it. If I focus on myself, and my own faith and relationship with God, it will speak for itself.

Effects on Judgement

1. Judgement invites judgement
2. Judgement blinds you to the bigger picture.
3. Judgement is a mirror showing you problems you have within yourself.

Self Awareness is being able to slow down and interpret the emotions that you’re feeling. Asking yourself questions like; Why am I wanting to judge them? Why is what is happening stirring up judgement in me? etc.

“We judge others not on their failure but through the lens of our own insecurities” – PC

Judgement occurs when we decide someone isn’t deserving of being treated as a human. You may catch yourself saying ” You’re nothing but a fill in the blank“. We are not called to judge one another, we are called to give grace to one another.

 

Judgement & Boundaries

I do believe in boundaries. The place where I end and someone else begins. But Christ is within me the entire time. From start to finish. There are times where I have to address things to people who cross a boundary, or cause me to feel confusion about who my God is. I am not a spiritual warrior, I am new in my walk with God. I share my story and the inner parts of my heart because I struggle. I’m fueled by hope that my honesty, and vulnerability may help lead someone else’s life to the hands of Jesus. I have sadly judged the hearts of many who were apart of my life. I judged the condition of there heart because what they said, or what they did that made me feel unworthy. I can recount the many times I dismissed someone due to their actions that made me feel as if I didn’t have my own voice. Like how I felt didn’t matter. I decided that’s how they felt. I never slowed down the conversation, and allowed my truth in Christ to sustain me.

Now don’t get me wrong. I am a true believer that sometimes the best way for me to Love someone is from a distance. I can pray for them, want the best for them, and still care deeply for them. If someone is continuously tempting me to do things that go against my beliefs, or leads me away from my relationship with God. The only judgement I need to make is within myself. It shows me that I need to practice self awareness, get in the word of God, and PRAY.

There is a proper way to show love, and concern for another person. This can be biblical “judgement”. This is after a relationship is establish, and where trust and love is the foundation. This is through prayer, and it’s not impulsive, or prideful.

 

5 CURES to a judgmental Heart

1. Love God–  Its hard to be in love with Jesus, and judgement someone He is in love with.
2. Feed Sheep– There’s more work to be done. Stop wasting your energy on judging the people around you, and start putting that energy into building God’s kingdom.
3. Give Grace to Others– We are all called to give grace to others. (1 Colossians 3.) Instead of judging someone’s motive, cut them some slack and be patient.
4. Follow Jesus– Stay in your own lane. Don’t wander off. Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, and love them anyway.
5. Accept Grace Yourself– Start by getting some unconditional love in you. Remember what you have been forgiven for.

As always shoot me a DM on Instagram and let me know what you took away from this. Pastor Chris’s messages on unforgiveness have been life changing for me. I am so grateful, and I hope that it is helping you as well.