I know, at 16 you feel like you know what’s best for you. But, let me tell you that the people who love you, are the ones fighting to keep you safe. They are the ones who you probably think are being unfair and over protective. They are trying to protect you from all the hurt and chaos you will create on your own. Trust them, talk to them, and tell them you love them.
Popularity isn’t everything. I know you want to be liked, but do not change who you are. Do not lower your standards to meet someone else expectations of you. You are beautiful, loving, and smart. You have so much going for you if you’d only choose to stay on the path of who God has made you to be.
Girls are mean. Unfortunately it doesn’t get any better as you get older.. I know, I’m sorry. Learn to see past those mean girls. Know without a doubt they are facing their own insecurities and pains that have nothing to do with you. If anything, be kind to them. Because there’s probably no one else in their life who is. Be the person in their life that will show them kindness and compassion no matter how hard they try to push you away. We have so much of women shaming other women in the world today. Don’t let that become a part of your world.
You’re going to get your heart broken. This will be your truest test at 16. I know you think it will be getting your drivers license (which you’ll fail the first time…. watch out for that last stop sign). But you will fall in love with someone who just doesn’t see your value. You need to be strong. Do not let that relationship determine your worth as a young girl. You didn’t get cheated on because of anything you did. You are beautiful, you are loving, you are smart, you are kind, you are supportive, and you are everything that makes you YOU. Do not lower your stands on what you want in a relationship because a guy doesn’t respect you. Instead find a guy who will respect you, OR, better yet, stay away from guys. And focus on yourself until high school is done.
TWO WRONGS DON’T MAKE A RIGHT. They make it even harder. The guilt, fear, and shame you will feel lingers for years and years. You don’t like hurting people, its just not in your DNA. So when you think a dose of revenge is the doctors orders- think again. Because you will be the one you end up hurting.
If I could choose one thing for you to know, it would be that you cannot love anyone else if you don’t love yourself. If you can love yourself first, you wont allow toxic people to change your perception of you. If you love yourself, you can be confident in who you are. You can set boundaries and expectations. If you would just love yourself, you can avoid so much future heart ache in your life.
Play sports, focus on your school work, make friends, stay out of drama, create unforgettable memories and love yourself!! These are all the things I wish to you. And although you didn’t do that for yourself, I hope that one day you will be able to encourage other young girls.
I hope I can be the woman I needed when I was sixteen.